It’s the eternal paradox of parenting.
At the end of the school year – you can’t wait for summer! But by the end of the summer, you can’t wait for school! And for me anyway, I’m glad my kids are still alive!
But the new school year is always more than just that, it’s a new beginning. A new school start.. The juxtaposition of “Thank GAWD they are back in school” and “Oh wait! You’re growing up so fast – too fast”….. these bittersweet thoughts always smack you straight upside the head when the new school year rolls around. At least it does for me.
So as we start each new year…. and we watch our kids grow…… what we really see is our hearts walking down the hallway, new backpack and all…. walking one step further away from us…. All the while strengthening their roots… but also one more step towards developing their wings to fly on their own. While mine may still be elementary school age — the trepidation is the same, the glances back from them – no words needed, because, while their words say, “Momma, we’re big and growing you know…” ; their hearts and eyes need no words to say, “Momma, Daddy, I’m kinda scared, kinda excited— and I’m trying to act like I don’t need you.”
My Precious Babies: From my heart to yours – I am saying the same thing.
Everyday, every moment, my sweet children, I do the best to strengthen your roots…. but all in preparation for your wings to someday soar and majestically fly on your own.
Or for many of you, you are packing your hearts up and sending them away to college. Another HUGE chapter that is bittersweet on a whole other level.
For all of you parents, I came across some words that touched my heart and wanted to share with you:
These poignant words, verses here for you… – (get your tissues ready)
First Day of School
By Wendy Silva
I wonder that you’re doing right now
And if everyone is treating you kind.
I hope there’s a special person,
A nice friend that you can find.
I wonder if your teacher knows
Just how special you are to me.
And if the brightness of your heart
Is something she can see.
I wonder if you are thinking about me
And if you need a hug.
I already miss the sound of your voice,
And how you give my leg a hug.
I wonder if you can possibly understand,
How hard it is for me to let you grow
On this day know that my heart breaks
For this is a big step in letting my bab(ies) go.
THANK YOU to my fellow moms and beautiful friends at McKinney Moms Blog for being gracious enough to let me pass along to you.
And these painfully poignant words penned by the late Kidd Kraddick, an Icon of The Airwaves in Dallas at 106.1 KISS-FM – a tireless advocate for kids in his philanthropic work. This devoted dad, amazing man and respected colleague of mine, wrote this to his little girl… and I’m sure – from heaven – whispers this in her heart everyday.
I Trust You Will Treat Her Well
By: Kidd Kraddick
World, I bequeath to you today my one little girl in a crispy dress… with two blue eyes…and a happy laugh that ripples all day long, and a batch of light blonde hair that bounces in the sunlight when she runs. I Trust You’ll Treat Her Well.
She’s slipping out of the backyard of my heart this morning and skipping off down the street to her first day of school.
And never again will she be completely mine.
Prim and Proud, she’ll wave a young and independent hand this morning, and say good-bye and walk with little-lady steps to the nearby schoolhouse.
Gone will be the chattering little hoyden who lived only for play, and gone will be the delightful little gamin who roamed the yard like a proud princess with nary a care in her little world.
Now she will learn to stand in lines…wait by the alphabet for her name to be called…
She will learn to turn her little-girl ears for the sound of school bells, and for deadlines…
She will learn to giggle and gossip…. and to look at the ceiling in a disinterested way when the little boy across the aisle sticks out his tongue.
Now she will learn to be jealous…and now she will learn to feel hurt inside…and now she will learn how not to cry. No longer will she have time to sit on the front porch steps on a summer day and watch while an ant scurries across a crack in the sidewalk.
Or will she have time to pop out of bed with the dawn to kiss liclac blossoms in the morning dew. Now she will worry about important things….like grades… and what dresses to wear… and whose best friend is whose. Now she will worry about the little things that seem huge but are truly microscopic amidst the big picture.
And she’ll find her new heroes. For five full years I’ve been her sage and Santa Claus…her pal and playmate…her parent and friend. Now, alas, she’ll learn to share her worship and adoration with her teachers (which is only right).
No longer will her parents be the smartest, and greatest in the world. Today, when the first school bell rings, she’ll learn how it is to be a member of a group….with all its privileges, and, of course, its disadvantages, too.
She’ll learn in time that proper young ladies don’t laugh out loud… or keep frogs in pickle jars in bedrooms…or watch ants scurry across the cracks in a summer sidewalk…
Today for the first time she’ll begin to learn that all who smile at her are not her friends. That, ‘the group” can be a demanding mistress… and I’ll stand on the porch and watch her start out on the long, long journey to becoming a woman.
So WORLD, I BEQUEATH to YOU TODAY ONE LITTLE GIRL in a crispy dress, with two blue eyes, a happy laugh that ripples all day long , and a batch of light blonde hair that bounces in the sunlight when she runs.
I TRUST YOU’LL TREAT HER WELL.
Parents, remember – it’s not just a new fresh start to a school year: It’s the next step in your children’s future. Empower them everyday. Tears are filling my eyes now, so it’s hard to see the keyboard… so I will close for now.
But ESPECIALLY thank the teachers along the way….for they are integral in their care and the development of their wings.
In the meantime…. give them your time. Give your babies your TIME. That’s THE most important currency for our kids.
And THAT means more to your children than WORDS can every say.
Blessings to all of you as we move forward in this new school year.
Empower yourself; Empower your children.
Maria is a veteran of TV broadcast news and founded The Empowered Mom, mentoring, coaching and inspiring fellow savvy business owners and MOMpreneurs. She also owns the communications and public relations company, Luce Media, LLC. Watch for her feature columns regularly on TSB.