Hello my Sister Lionesses…Has the last two weeks been a testament to your mission for mindfulness?
What with the springing forward of our clocks, our inner timepiece cannot but help to feel the racing toward the next thing on the list. After all; we lost an hour! One precious hour…GONE! And…we didn’t have it to loose!
So, how do we make up for that long gone sixty minutes? Do you know there are some places in our country that do not “obey” the time change rule! How dare they? Don’t they know they’re breaking the rules?
I myself have wondered for some time what it would be like to live in one of those places that did not go with the flow; where marching to my own drummer would be a winsome thing to behold. Don’t you just love the word “winsome”? I do! It stands for all the things we are striving to be more like; a softer version of ourselves, more peaceful, less anxiety ridden. Sounds really nice, doesn’t it?
So, where do we begin or continue to look for the answers to that formidable question? How do we make the most of our time and where can we find the time to start looking? Kind of a “Catch 22”, isn’t it? But here’s the real catch! By taking short breaks in the action, we will begin to notice things slowing down around us. By giving ourselves permission to “take time in”, as Abby Seixas suggests in her book, “Finding the Deep River Within”, “We will begin to recover balance and meaning in our every day lives.”
Once again, this kind of thing takes practice which translates into paying a diligent kind of attention that makes sense for each of us. It’s not going to be the same for everyone. We must all find what balance means to us, personally. Here are some ideas to ponder in our quest for finding some time just to be. When was the last time you dropped in on a neighbor or friend, just to say hello? As a society, we used to do this much more and it was almost commonplace in fact! I know how much it means when someone thinks enough of our relationship to “check in” with me.
It completes the circle when we know we are being thought about and that we aren’t alone in this eternal quest for a loving connection. Let’s all try slowing down in our cars as well. This may seem counterproductive in the beginning, but I promise you it’s not. You will get to where you are going more peacefully and that feeling of urgency will disappear.
Just be sure to leave yourself a few extra minutes to get there. And…while listening to music in the car can be soothing, it can also be a distraction. Try a whole day driving in silence. Here’s one that might test your will. Try limiting the amount of texting you do in a day. And, if you think it’s not much, take a look at your bill when it comes in. You will be amazed! This is both a time and energy robber we can do without.
Also, do you remember when Oprah asked us all to sign her “No-Phone Zone” pledge? Time to “re-up”, I think…we can all benefit from this simple task. I guess that’s enough for now…maybe even more than enough. But, here’s the deal, gals. By staying in the moment, we can resist multi-tasking which in turn reduces anxiety on many levels. Oh…and by the way…doing one thing at a time has been proven to lessen the probability for taking on the early signs of Alzheimer’s! Scientific evidence is now saying that multi-tasking is a huge contributor to the early onset of this terrible condition. If that doesn’t scare us into mindfulness, nothing will.
Let’s work together to build awareness in advance prior to our April Awareness mission. Take things one at a time. Slow down, and never mind that lost hour. It wasn’t really ours to begin with. Good luck…I’ll be looking for you in the slow lane…Remember…slow and steady does indeed win the race!
By the way, this week, our beautiful daughter Gina will celebrate her 37th birthday! And, if like us, you have children who depend on you, leading them by example is the best place to start and by modeling this kind of mindfulness, our children will cherish the legacy we set in motion for them.
Deborah Viapiana-Ricci is a freelance columnist living in McKinney with her husband, Wil. She can be found tossing her “to-do” list into the recycling! Please feel free to contact her: Deborah@teresinas.com